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The classical Chinese texts indicate the 7th November as the beginning of Winter season. For most westerners, especially in southern Europe, this time may still feel very much like Autumn. Yet, the lowering of temperatures betray a distinctive change in the air, announcing Winter's arrival.


I have long contemplated whether to tackle a profound subject like dying for this Winter blog. Yet, given that life is an ongoing cycle of dying and rebirth, it is one of the most essential topics for us to examine more thoroughly. Dying and rebirth happen continuously, not only at the beginning and end of our lives but also in smaller cycles that repeat daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly. It is about all beginnings and endings.


Winter is the time of year when we observe dying in nature. Trees, stripped of their leaves, appear lifeless, yet they merely retreat to be reborn in spring. Some animals vanish into hibernation, their heart rates nearly stopping as they enter a deep sleep, experiencing a form of temporary death. Humans also encounter a daily "little death" when we sleep, only to awaken restored each morning. Upon waking, we are no longer the same as yesterday; our bodies have renewed, shedding layers of skin, our minds are clearer from the previous day's memories, and our souls have regenerated during dream time.


We are similarly affected by the Winter season. We retreat from life's hustle to undergo our seasonal "little death." Just as Nature rests to be reborn in Spring, we also require this seasonal transformation to experience renewal. "Dying" is crucial for our renewal, rebirth, regeneration and growth. In fact, our aging process depends on it. The more we become fixed in our physical, mental, and emotional states, the more it makes us age. On the contrary, allowing the seasonal and daily rhythm of stepping from one cycle into the other, we enhance our regeneration.


Dying, contrary to our usual associations, is not about letting go and leaving an empty space. This is the feeling we experience when we lose someone; they leave an empty space that causes us to grieve. This energy is more palpable in Autumn when letting go is also letting in. The person who is dying does not feel that empty space; instead, they are undergoing a transformation. Like a worm becoming a butterfly, a chameleon changing colors, or water freezing in the cold and evaporating in the heat. There are no empty spaces or need to leave anything behind, but rather one substance transforming into another, becoming an entirely new being, in shape, density, and frequency. This year, this energy is further supported by the astrological sign of the Snake, which helps us energetically shed our old skin.


Some manifestations of such shapeshifting are physical, one may physically change the body shape, lose or gain weight, may cut or grow hair, display different facial expression, or change gait. Mentally, one may notice his/her mind is occupied with different thoughts, objectives, or transform own values. Whether these changes are physical or mental the lasting transformation arisese from a deep place inside of us.


In Chinese Medicine, Jing, the essence, is related to the deepest part of us, the darker side, the unknown, the subconscious, hence that which brings up the emotion of fear in us. Shen, the spirit, is the light, luminous and eternal part of us is that which brings out the emotion of love in us. The two are the opposites, Jing is related to the Water Element, the Winter season, the Kidneys in lower part of our body, and fear in our emotions. Shen, on the other hand, is related to the Fire Element, the Summer season, the Heart organ and upper body and the emotion of joy.


When our material essence, Jing, connects with our immaterial self, the Spirit (Shen) they form "Jing Shen", our life incarnation. The connection of the Jing and Shen is what allows the process of living one's true destiny in life, natural unfolding of our true purpose in this life.


Winter is the season most distant from the height of Summer's brightness, from the lightness of the Spirit, and the feeling of eternity. During winter, we become more conscious of our physical existence and survival instincts, heightening our awareness of the body and the material aspect of ourselves that has a natural end. We may naturaly feel far away from love and joy that illuminates our darker side.


This deep introspection serves another purpose: to identify what lies within us that we have yet to acknowledge. Illuminating these subconscious aspects (dark) with our consciousness (light) is the transformation that takes place during the Winter months, as old parts of us fade away to give colours to new aspects. Each Spring, we are reborn different from who we were the previous year.


How can we ignite the Spirit's spark during these dark winter months? By remembering that love precedes the creation of new earthly life, and it is love that conquers fear. Rumi said:

"Only love has power over lovers.

Death has none."

Remember to be like lovers in your life, and create from love. Hence, we spend time with the loved ones during Christmas season, this darkest part of the year cycle. By embracing joy and love as we explore our essence, we uncover new aspects within us.


The process of uncovering of self might be bumpy, as birthing requires time and space, balancing the highs and lows with the unifying force of love. As Rumi aptly expressed it:

"I was dead, then alive.

Weeping, then laughing.

The power of love came into me,

and I became fierce like a lion,

then tender like the evening star."


During these winter months, we might want to face our ultimate fear and ponder on the "real" death, the one that marks the end of our earthly existence. And the moment we consider that one day we will transition to the Spirit life, leaving our physicality here on Earth, it often bacomes clearer what truly matters and holds value to us. The chaos and daily hustle of life suddenly calm down, allowing us to strip away the non-essential, get to the bare bone and sharp focus on what truly necessitates our limited resources of time and energy.


For all this to evolve effortlessly within us, it is essencial to take care of the organs that store our essence: the Kidneys and the Bladder. Starting from the suggestion of the Su Wen classic of Chinese Medicine as to the way one proceeds in winter months.

"The 3 months of winter

are called closing and storing.(...)

One goes to bed early: one gets up late.

Everything must be done according to the light of the Sun, exerting the will as if buried, as if hidden and taking care only of onself, as if fixed on oneself, in possession of oneself.

Once must avoid cold and seek the heat;

Not let anything escape through the layers of the skin, for fear of losing all the Qi. (...)

It is the way that maintains the storing of life.

To go countercurrent would injure the kidneys, causing in spring impotence and deficiency,

through insufficient supply for the production of life."


Living in harmony throughout the winter months means to truely understand that stopping and being still, is actually necessary for things to move. So, avoiding physical overexertion, taking regularly quiet time off and much sleep.


One Taoist yogic practice indicates for "when kidneys have been ill over a long period of time, you must face south an hour before dawn. Clear the mind, not allowing any unruly thoughts and stop up the breath, seven times in all. Then stretch out the neck, gently swallowing the breath down, like swallowing a solid object. After performing this practice seven times, take saliva down, again and again, with the tongue."


During winter, it is important to preserve all bodily essences, including breath, saliva, and seminal essence. One approach to nourishing our essence and Kidneys is by consuming an appropriate seasonal diet. First, try to avoid cold and raw foods as much as possible. Instead, opt for cooked, oven-baked meals and soups to counteract the cold environment. Secondly, prioritize foods rich in nourishment and warmth, such as seeds, nuts, pulses, meat, and fish. The vegetables that best nourish the essence are root vegetables and sea vegetables (algae). Incorporate warming spices like cinnamon, clove, star anise, cardamom, black pepper, and ginger. In phytotherapy, it is the time to supplement with adaptogenic and tonifying herbs, such as ginseng, licorice, cordyceps, ashwagandha, maca, astragalus, goji berries, and corniolo.


Another way to tonify our Kidneys in winter is with acupuncture and warming moxa treatment. Furthermore, acupuncture can sustain the process of your seasonal regeneration, helping you reconnect your essence with the spirit.

To book yourself for a winter session, click below for contact details.



Winter tree in sunlight
Winter tree in sunlight

Initially, it might seem harsh to equate Love with a bitter flavour because of our cultural link between bitterness and displeasure. However, consider how many people enjoy drinking coffee or tea. Both beverages have a bitter taste, with coffee being more bitter than tea. This suggests that our negative perceptions of bitterness may need some reconsideration.


What is the function of bitter in Chinese Medicine? Bitter has the energetic effect of descending. Whether it is to send down a big and heavy meal or calming overly excited Heart, it has a downward directionality.


You might wonder, if love is about elevation and passionate energy, then bitter surely works in the opposite way, correct? Well, let's explore it further.


In Chinese Medicine (and likewise in Classical Greek philosophy) there are Five fundamental elements/energies on which all material and immaterial existence is based. The Five Elements of Chinese Medicine are: Fire, Earth, Metal, Water and Wood; and everything can be associated with these elements.


Fire is associated with the Summer season, with fire, with the red colour, with the Heart, with Love and with the bitter taste. That already suggest that bitter tasting herbs, especially blue-violet Chicory flowers, are going to be beneficial to the Heart and its emotion of love.


Studying Bach flower essences has helped me grasp the significance of this bitter herb in relation to the emotion of Love. Edward Bach wrote about people who need the Chicory essence:

"…people are full of love and care for their families and friends. But they expect to receive love and attention in return, with interest, and feel slighted and unnecessarily hurt if they don’t get all they expect.

Their great love can lead them to hold onto their loved ones and try to keep them dependent and close to hand.

This may stifle the development of other personalities, or simply drive people away.

When we fall into this state the remedy helps bring out the positive side of Chicory: love given unconditionally and in freedom."

Chicory flower essence. Edward Bach
Chicory flower essence

To me, the significance lies in how Chicory serves to strengthen and solidify the emotion of love, making it even more lasting. Reflecting on it, in any loving relationships there comes a point where we must acknowledge and accept something about our partner or family member that may not agree perfectly with us and we may attempt to impose our will rather than let the other be. The bitter-tasting Chicory helps us with accepting the other lovingly, sending it down, swallowing the facts, and by doing so our loving feelings are actually anchored down.


This process in Five Elements describes the dynamic of the Fire and the Water element. Water element corresponds to the Winter season, the colour blue, the Kidneys and the emotion of fear. By ancoring the emotion of Love in the depths of Water energy, the Heart may become unsure and insecure. Hence the blue-violet blooms of Chicory serve as a perfect bridge between the Fire and Water element; supporting the Heart and assuring its connection with the enduring and life-sustaining Water element.


In conclusion, enduring, profound and lasting love requires bitterness as a crucial ingredient. Without it, love may remain superficial, self-centered, conditional or fleeting.


Now... I am off to finish my Chicory flower essence I have harvested and infused earlier today, potentiated with crystals.


If you would like to get my Chicory flower essence contact me by clicking below:




There needs to be a balance in everything and that includes a detox programme.


Our body is so intelligent it detoxes anyway, daily and seasonally, better still if we give it a helping hand.


There are many obvious reasons for doing a periodic detox: the pollution we are surrounded by, including industrialised food, the medicines we take (including vaccines), the endogenous substances our bodies produce under stress which interrupt smooth elimination and the little physical exercise we do to oxygenate the body, are just a few examples.


No doubt, every now and then, our body requires our loving attention. In fact, the intention of a detox should be the desire to give our body some loving attention. Hence, the loving-3-phase-detox is designed to be gentle on your systems, yet effective. Having convinced you as to "why", let me explain "when" and "how" to detox.

#loving3phasedetox

When? There are only two times of the year when the energy is propense to detox: one is in Spring and the other is in Autumn. Spring is when the activity of Liver is at its peak, Autumn when the Colon helps us to eliminate (especially the parasites). Still the Spring time has no equals for the all-around detox. The energies in our bodies are rising and moving, which aids in the clearing out process.


How? The key words are: in a loving, gentle and phased approach. According to the Chinese Medicine, the first, most external way to eliminate is via the Bladder, the water system. Starting from the water soluble toxins we skim the first layer of debris, eliminate toxic heat, acute inflammations but at the same time warm up and sustain the body in preparation for the next stage: transforming the phlegm. During the second stage we transform the more dense body fluids which form humidity and phlegm (giving the rise to chronic illnesses). We also prepare the intestines, ensuring their proper movement and elimination, setting up the ground for lipid soluble elimination that comes from the Liver filtering in the third stage.


Whereas we could do all of this at the same time, phasing out in three stages, ideally spread over 6 weeks, gives our body time to deal with each stage in turn. You could assign 10 days or minimum 7 days, for each phase.


Another important principle is to gradually eliminate foods that inhibit detoxification and include those that aid each stage of the detox. The gradual elimination is more gentle and the body does not go into the "deprivation" mode. What's more, I suggest when you eliminate a certain food, you replace it with a substitute, at least initially, for your body not to feel the lack, which may make it go into "storage mode" rather than elimination. So, for example a substitute for a coffee could be cacao (100% dark chocolate or hot cacao in the morning with honey to get a boost); a substitute for wine could be apple juice or apple cider vinegar diluted in water. Watch this space #loving3phasedetox for more substitute ideas to come on Facebook or Instagram.


It is important to highlight that the foods eliminated in the phase one and two are not included until the end of the detox programme. Even then, I recommend you to include coffee, alcohol, sugar, gluten, diary and meats as gradually as they were eliminated, one food at the time. As a matter of fact, you are likely to feel so good at the end of the programme you will feel more loving towards your body anyway.


I have created the loving-3-phase-detox with the following balancing principles in mind:

  1. flowing with the seasonal cycle of the Nature to start in early Spring;

  2. whilst eliminating certain foods from your diet you substitute with others for gentle effects;

  3. gradual inclusion of clearing out foods, herbs and/or supplements;

  4. gradual increase of physical activity as the Spring energy rises;

  5. phased progression including one system at the time: urinary/blood (Kidneys), thick liquids (Spleen & Intestines) and lipids (Liver).

Below you find a summary table to aid you in designing your ingredients of the loving-3-phase-detox. Apart from the foods to eliminate, you have the suggestions of the substitutes, as well as foods, herbs and supplements to include in each phase, which help with that particular system involved. The final part of the table suggests routines you will benefit from in particular.


Phase I week 1 & 2

Phase II week 3 & 4

Phase III week 5 & 6

System / Organs involved

Urinary and Blood Kidneys & Bladder

Denser body fluids Spleen & Intestines

Blood and lipids Liver & Gallbladder

Elimination

Water

Phlegm

Lipids

Energetic

Warming up

Transforming

Moving





Foods to eliminate

coffee, alcohol

sugar and gluten

meat, diary

Foods as substitutes

barley coffee, cacao, green tea, apple juice, apple cider vinegar in water

some dry fruits and honey, gluten free grains (rice, buckwheat)

pulses, chickpeas, small fish and sweet water fish, eggs, tofu, nuts

Foods to include

algae, alfalfa sprouts, parsley, eggs

millet, linseed, kefir, apples, goji berry

cruciferous veggies, green vegetables, garlic, onion, ginger, whole cereal grains

Herbs to include

cleavers, nettles, horsetail, burdock root, birch sap

cinnamon, cloves, aloe juice, red clover

milk thistle, dandelion, artichoke,

Supplements to include

adaptogens, vit.C, magnesium, spirulina/algae

probiotics, chrome, magnesium, psyllium

magnesium, vit.B complex, Vit.A, omega 3-6-9





In the morning

warm water with lemon, ginger and honey

warm water with bentonite clay or zeolite, oats with cinnamon & cloves

half a grapefruit

In the evening

turmeric milk

miso soup, activated charcoal,

malic acid or apple juice with warm water

Physical activity

min 20min walk a day, thermal or epsom baths 2-3 times a week, a massage or acupuncture detox

min. 30min walk a day + Qi Gong, Yoga or other excercise 30min a day

min. 30min walk a day + 30 min of daily exercise + 2-3x a week one hour of aerobic activity

For any doubts, questions or clarifications contact me here.


For any suggestions, comments or experiences to share, please go to my Facebook or Instagram page and search for #loving3phasedetox.





Thank you for joining in!

Dorota Anna Kowal
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